It’s very important to effectively communicate when you’re in a relationship. As you develop an understanding of one another, finding a resolution to conflict should gradually become easier. Cultivating a relational bond with someone should provide you with the necessary information to either progress or cut ties.
Arguing back and forth between one another doesn’t resolve anything because no one is actually listening. Presenting ultimatums aren’t associated with effective communication. Ultimatums often lead to actions which motivate one to avoid consequences rather than putting in a sincere effort to address the primary issue. This type of change is only temporary and often lead the couple back to having the initial discussion all over again. Even worse, demands may place unwanted pressure on one individual and cause them to end the relationship completely.
Most of us are naturally selfish.
We focus on our primary needs and everything after that is secondary. There are times that we push our own agendas onto others for our own personal gain and self-gratification. However, there is no way possible to be in a relationship by yourself. That alone should cause realization that everything isn’t about you or what you want. Pay more attention and focus more on what you can give rather than receive.
When you speak, it’s critical that you convey your message in a way that allows the listener to receive your words. Timing is a very important consideration. If you notice you are heading towards an argument, you may want to revisit the discussion later when tempers subside.
As a recipient, it’s important to listen to understand rather than listen to reply.
Quick responses only illustrate your failure to understand what has been shared. Remain calm and respectful and be attentive as their thoughts are being shared.
Allow open communication to flourish between you and your partner. If change doesn’t result after clear communication has been established, why continue on?