After years of living in the Washington, D.C. metropolitan area, I’ve learned that it’s truly the mecca of single, attractive and progressive-minded women of color. If you take a survey, there is clearly a noticeable difference in the number of single, educated women in comparison to single, educated men. There are plenty of factors that contribute to the imbalance that affects the dating pool. A number of black men are incarcerated, homosexual or simply aren’t desirable to women. In addition, many men are willing or prefer to date outside their race, and/or they are not ready to settle down.
Males who don’t fall into any of the aforementioned categories are definitely “WINNING.”
These men are fully aware of the current dating climate. Unfortunately, some of them find opportunities to monopolize on the disproportionate contrast in numbers. While the intentions should be working to build a relationship, they rather devote their time and energy to find ways to gain leverage. Instead of monogamy, many men take advantage of the plethora of single black women.
One reason is due to the huge gap in the ratios, competition between men is virtually non-existent. Knowing that there is an overabundance of women provides men the freedom and wiggle room to be unrealistic in their expectations of women. It allows men to boldly tell all of their desires to women with little judgement or resistance. The mentality is, “If she isn’t willing to give me what I want, she can easily replaced.” It sets impractical expectations and creates an erroneous sense of what love and relationships truly are.
Due to their pride, selfishness and inflated egos, men have molded themselves into false idols.
Yet, they are not worthy of any praise or worship! We have to stop esteeming ourselves and start giving our relationships the respect that they deserve. Fellas, we have to take ownership of the demise of the dating pool, relationships and even our marriages. You cannot expect to take advantage of your lady by playing the field your entire relationship, and then enter into a marriage desiring that same playground. Generally those who get married do it before God. He often times is regarded as the staple that holds a bond intact.
Once you allow other parties to interfere with the union between you and your spouse, it’s over!
It’s easy for a man to request a “hall pass” to cheat during marriage because he was never completely faithful to begin with. Would men be okay with giving her that same pass? She will likely give him the “hall pass” because she has been loyal and faithful to him during the course of their relationship despite his cheating. There should not be any form of a “hall pass” allowed in a marriage. If the man or woman wants the ability to be free for a given period of time, they should reconsider getting married to begin with.
What are your thoughts on a “hall passes?”